These sessions are designed for people in relationship irrespective of the level of conflict present. There is a misconception that couples therapy is only when something is “not working”, but actually this space can be a dedicated time commitment where you work on your growth, values and alignment as a couple. An opportunity to either understand how your unique patterns and dynamics work in order to create tools and strategies for when life does bring more challenging waters, or merely as an opportunity to have an assigned time capsule to check in and work through some of the conversations which don’t get to take place in the daily grind of life.
It also goes without saying, that couples coaching is an opportunity to work through specific conflicts which may be present in the relationship, with the advantage of a third professional person being present creating space and safety to cover terrain not easily processed when it is just the two of you tackling head-on.

The period of trying to decide whether the state of the marriage is resolvable or not, or after making the decision and forging ahead to reclaim your life, are often emotionally excruciating. This is where working with a coach is beneficial as they are equipped with the ability to hold a contained structure to navigate the flip-flop emotions whilst a variety of decisions and options need to be considered. During periods of trauma (and divorce is significantly traumatic irrespective of who is instigating), rational thought and emotional processing do not always work well together. Solid support and guidance at these times are imperative to move through in a manageable manner, whilst having the advantage of someone in your corner to be mindful of aspects you might be missing during these periods of chaos.

Words can’t always describe the feelings that arise during the experience of infidelity and betrayal and so I won’t attempt to capture these now on the page, however it goes without saying that no matter the who and how this experience comes about, there are a range of nuanced factors at play. Therapeutic support at this time is beneficial for both parties to understand what dynamics were at play in the relationship or couple before this event took place, and equally what aspects of the self were seeking expression in order to be integrated back into the psyche and/or relationship. Healing is possible for both parties and infidelity does not always need to result in the end of the relationship, but it is a significant symptom of something present which needs to be addressed if the relationship is to survive. 

Family constellations aka Systemic Constellations is a body of work refined by the late Bert Hellinger, a German psychotherapist. Families are organized according to system theory. As a complete system, the family (throughout many generational layers) will seek to always retain balance. Balance does not always mean “pretty” or “perfect”. It means in order according to a set or organizational principles. Where these principles are not followed various entanglements incur resulting in a variety of disordered symptoms which can run through as patterns in a family. These principles were known as the orders of love and covered order and acknowledging those who came before, balance of giving and receiving and belonging or inclusion. Symptoms can look like trouble with money or business, relationship troubles, mental or physical illness or other physical or emotional symptoms.

Parenting is not easy, now add the additional layer of neurodiversity in a world designed for neurotypical compliance and you may be at your wit’s end or feel like a complete failure. I am not a neurodiversity specialist or clinician, but I am an autistic mother of two neurodiverse daughters (Autistic/ADHD and milder ADHD/OCD with sensory and auditory processing). What is needed most in this challenging space is community and support where we can normalize the challenges experienced in this domain, whilst finding effective strategies which work and do not re-traumatize either parent or child. This requires a lot of listening to all aspects and inner parts present to navigate what system will work best for you within the culture or conditions you find yourself. No one solution fits for everyone. As with all my offerings I approach this from a dual-channel perspective of both education and providing relevant information and resources as well as listening deeply to the unique family structure and system that you find yourself in.

Aside from the specific sections outlined already, you may have your own reasons for seeking out some guided support for navigating life’s terrain. You’re welcome to reach out and connect and we can have a conversation about your needs.

In addition to emergent coaching, I offer structured guided coaching containers which follow particular themes. The current module available is called JOURNEY and works through the psychological archetypal themes as envisioned through the first 8 cards of the major arcana cards. Find out more here.